Who You Really Are??

Have you ever feel that you're not becoming who you really are in front of the man you are dating in? some of you might think "hiyaiks, what a two-face!!" and might be some of you will say, "who doesn't ?". a woman had come to me and told me her love story. she said that she's just broke up to his boyfriend because she felt that she can't be herself along the relationship. and for your information she's been in those relationship for more over 4 years. after she finished her story all i said was, "how dare you". yes, how dare you. that's what i said. how dare she hurting herself for years. and how dare she lied to her boyfriend?

most of woman have a tendency to "not-becoming" herself in front of man she likes at the first time. actually man do it either but they doesn't take a long time to "show" of what they really are. so why did she do that? because she wanted to be accepted. she thought if she did the way her boyfriend wants to be, their relationship would be working smooth. but the truth was, she's putting a time-bomb on their relationship. and it's so ironic. if you think that you're gonna be "the perfect-lady" in front of you boyfriend by being "stranger" which is "you think" it's what you're boyfriend wants, then you are so wrong missy.

A good man will accept who you really are. A good man will make you feel safe, comfort. you don't have to put a make-up while you're hanging with him just to make you look good. you don't have to pretend that you have a same hobbies with him just to proud him, you don't have to hide your true feeling just to make him happy. A good man will learn to love yourself no matter how different both of you. and if you said that you loves him so start with love yourself. on sarcastic way i will say, "put off your mask!"

actually it reminds me to "Runaway Bride" movie. i put this movie on my top ten list. i will give you a short review about this movie. Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts) who has had a number of unsuccessful relationships. Maggie, afraid of being married, has left a trail of boyfriends. Indeed, she's left three men waiting for her in church during wedding day (all of which are caught on tape), getting her tabloid fame and the dubious nickname Runaway Bride. Why does maggie habitually jilts her fiances in an aisle?
the answer is because she's afraid. When she's walking in the aisle, she's just realize that she was not the woman that the person needed. she's not herself. every dating a different man, she's became a different person either. and she did that because she thought it would make her boyfriend happier.

See, you're just wasting your time and energy. why do you have to be afraid your date won't accepting who you really are while you never give a shot? if you find out that your date cannot accept you (as you of course), so you don't have to bother it. glad that u know it before your relationship getting seriously.

We know that in relationship there have to be take and give in it. one or couple of things in ours will be changed. but we change it for a good reason and to get a better life. not to living in a misery world by becoming a stranger. i suggest to all of you whom ever did it, just try to love yourself. don't have to care to what other says bout you. while they say, "ooh are you gain your weight?", or "is that a dimple on your face?" or "what kind of dress do you put on? looks terrible". you don't have to care to what people said bout you. if you want to change it, well change it because you feels like to do it. not because you're afraid not looking good in front of others and think to pleasant them. so did with relationship, just said what you want, what you need. you don't have to be afraid of arguing. Iam a person who loves to arguing. yeah even there's a time i don't feel want to debate but honestly i figure out that by arguing i can explore what kind of person i am, and other people surrounds me. and if it ended in unexpected ways, well fix it. everything can be fix as long as you have courage to do it.

okay, back to the main story. well after this woman finished up her story, she told me that her ex boyfriend already having a relationship with her good friend. Her good friend has told her earlier about their closeness before finally she decided to make a relationship with her ex boyfriend. and by the time she said to her good friend that she's fine with it because their relationship was over and nothing to worried about. but the truth she's still cannot accept and calling her good friend as a hypocrite. then i said to her, "so what do you call yourself? a super-hypocrite?"

hell yeah, sometimes truth can be so cruel. but if you can't handle a truth bout yourself so how could you handle life itself?